tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post2675953137520405505..comments2023-08-27T06:02:15.849-07:00Comments on Back To The Egg: One-upmanship or “I’m better than you are”Gingerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10633249243313445632noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-41292645427402508632012-08-23T07:22:43.363-07:002012-08-23T07:22:43.363-07:00@sherbear -- I'm so pitifully behind in tendin...@sherbear -- I'm so pitifully behind in tending to my blog & ask everyone's forgiveness in responding to their comments. Dealing with cancer in the family takes a lot of my time.<br />I completely agree with your assessment tho'...we are so self involved anymore & the world we live in is one we create to revolve around us. No-one suffers more, feels as much pain or sadly cares whether anyone else does. We need to get over that quickly!Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10633249243313445632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-37242743829961016302012-05-28T12:17:59.334-07:002012-05-28T12:17:59.334-07:00May 28, 2012 at 11:48 am
it's having consider...May 28, 2012 at 11:48 am<br /><br />it's having consideration or behaving inconsiderately...in my opinion being taught the difference is on the wane and the chest-pumping ME-ME! atitude is on the rise, sadly.sherbearnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-38867039426962648692012-05-28T12:17:02.579-07:002012-05-28T12:17:02.579-07:00Dec 16, 2010 at 12:43 pm
Communication that start...Dec 16, 2010 at 12:43 pm<br /><br />Communication that starts out with “Once again, let me remind you that…” puts people on the defensive, distracting from the productive message. Those 7 words waste time for both the writer and receiver, whereas going straight to the action recommended removes all waste. Why spend even 2 minutes trying to prove that the idiot who said that had never before answered the Q, so why would the say "let me remind you" ?? My immediate response is "#%@$^ U#*@ too, Sir!"nohjnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-6782457842590521952012-05-28T12:16:13.195-07:002012-05-28T12:16:13.195-07:00Jul 28, 2008 at 10:00 am
yes. no matter how bad a...Jul 28, 2008 at 10:00 am<br /><br />yes. no matter how bad anyone's 'bad' story is, you still have to deal with it.<br /><br />not facing the issue is an excuse for someone's 'bad' story. some people have such bad stories they don't see what the problem actually is.Douglas Maysnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-13976858818943438322012-05-28T12:15:24.860-07:002012-05-28T12:15:24.860-07:00Jul 28, 2008 at 1:18 am
Very, very true. At the s...Jul 28, 2008 at 1:18 am<br /><br />Very, very true. At the same time, I'm thinking about your daughter, and others who may respond like her. I think a lot of the time people who act like her just do it because they don't know any better, they DON'T stop to think, that's the point. We are very conditioned to automatically respond with our own stories. Or, we are embarrassed, don't know how to empathize, and that's our best attempt at being helpful. I know I have been guilty of one-upmanship, and felt pretty silly, but just did not know what else to say. It does take practice and mindfulness.Travelernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-11356605837052311142012-05-28T12:14:36.819-07:002012-05-28T12:14:36.819-07:00Feb 02, 2007 at 3:31 pm
That's very good advi...Feb 02, 2007 at 3:31 pm<br /><br />That's very good advice; I hope I can learn it. It also makes one a LOT more popular, I imagine.Nancynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-70739405539247300702012-05-28T12:13:31.942-07:002012-05-28T12:13:31.942-07:00Kaonashi; I agree with your seminar moderator. You...Kaonashi; I agree with your seminar moderator. You can actually see people fidgeting and sighing sometimes, just waiting to launch into their own narrative.<br />My uncle passed on advice to me as a kid; you'll never learn anything as long as you pretend you know everything. He told me it took him until he was into his 40's to learn that and it was probably the most valuable thing he *did* learn.<br />Shut up and listen...really listen.Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10633249243313445632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-43799341575881364002012-05-28T12:10:05.437-07:002012-05-28T12:10:05.437-07:00Feb 02, 2007 at 5:05 am
As part of a work-related...Feb 02, 2007 at 5:05 am<br /><br />As part of a work-related seminar, I once attended a workshop that dealt with learning to listen properly. One of the exercises we did was partner up and listen to our partner speak for about 2 minutes. During that time we aren't to interrupt them at all.<br /><br />The workshop moderator explained to us that often times we're not really listening to the other person. We're just waiting for the chance to offer our two cents or, as you mention in this article, compete with the other person with a better story. We don't realize that we would learn so much more from our conversation partners if we just take a moment to actually listen to and absorb what they're saying, rather than just waiting for your moment to talk.Kaonashinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-90896873651118764282012-05-28T12:08:30.990-07:002012-05-28T12:08:30.990-07:00Elsa; if I didn't, my own three would never me...Elsa; if I didn't, my own three would never meow to me again! Can't have that! =)Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10633249243313445632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-67388272313263492972012-05-28T12:07:12.089-07:002012-05-28T12:07:12.089-07:00Feb 01, 2007 at 7:08 pm
I like it that you are a ...Feb 01, 2007 at 7:08 pm<br /><br />I like it that you are a hero woman who saves your neighbor's cat! :-)Elsanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-45907027130000216902012-05-28T12:06:17.323-07:002012-05-28T12:06:17.323-07:00Right on the money, Ginger.
Feb 01, 2007 at 11:41...Right on the money, Ginger.<br /><br />Feb 01, 2007 at 11:41 amduanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34540356.post-25091454886505203282012-05-28T12:04:42.790-07:002012-05-28T12:04:42.790-07:00Feb 01, 2007 at 9:08 am
I'm guilty of this. I...Feb 01, 2007 at 9:08 am<br /><br />I'm guilty of this. I think we all are to some extent. But when I think about it, I don't say it to one-up someone as to let them know they aren't alone in their misfortune, whatever it is: it's happened before, to someone else. But you're right, it doesn't come across that way, does it? Good call to wake up & become more conscious about it. Thanks.Nancynoreply@blogger.com